No one prepares you for the challenges of Alzheimer’s caregiving. You follow your gut, read what you can, and remind yourself to stay patient and calm. But Alzheimer’s doesn’t follow a script. What worked yesterday might not work today. The good news is that small shifts in approach can help reduce confusion and foster connection.
Here are six common caregiving mistakes to steer clear of:
1. Using Logic to Argue
It’s natural to try to reason with your loved one: “We already ate,” or “That’s not right.” Unfortunately, Alzheimer’s changes how the brain perceives reality, so pushing logic often increases anxiety or frustration.
Try this: Enter their reality instead. If they’re worried about catching a train that no longer runs, focus on the feelings behind it and talk about the journey itself instead of correcting the timetable.
2. Correcting Every Mistake
Whether they call you the wrong name or mistake the day of the week, correcting them frequently can feel like criticism and create tension.
Try this: Prioritize emotional comfort over accuracy. If a false memory brings peace, let it be.
3. Overwhelming with Too Many Instructions
Simple routines become complex when too many steps are given at once. “Put on your shoes, grab your jacket, and let’s go” can feel like too much.
Try this: Break tasks down into one step at a time. Speak calmly and give plenty of time to process.
4. Taking Difficult Behavior Personally
Anger, suspicion, or withdrawal can feel hurtful, especially when the person was once emotionally close to you. But these behaviors stem from brain changes, not personal feelings.
Try this: Remember their heart is still there. Your presence matters, even if they don’t always show it.
5. Talking About Them, Not To Them
It’s tempting to talk for someone struggling with words. However, they still sense tone and respect.
Try this: Speak directly, ask simple questions, and include them with eye contact, even if their replies are limited.
6. Neglecting Your Own Well-being
Caregiving can feel like nonstop work, but ignoring your exhaustion harms everyone.
Try this: Allow yourself breaks and ask for help early. Respite care and support services are there because caregivers need care too.
There Is No Perfect Way
Some days will flow; others will test your patience. Alzheimer’s caregiving requires flexibility, love, and ongoing adjustment. Your compassion is what matters most, both for your loved one and yourself.
Help Is Here When You Need It
We offer specialized Alzheimer’s care designed to bring peace to your loved one and relief to caregivers. Serving families across Davie, Weston, Fort Lauderdale, and throughout Broward County, we’re here to support your journey.
Call us at 954-486-6440 to learn how we can help.