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Feeling Overwhelmed as a Caregiver? It May Be Caregiver Burden.

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A woman who is feeling overwhelmed as a caregiver gazes out the kitchen window while holding a cup of coffee.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed as a caregiver, these tips can help.

Caring for a senior loved one is an act of love and devotion, but it can also feel like a nonstop marathon. The emotional highs of shared smiles and laughter can rapidly be overshadowed by the physical and mental fatigue that comes with constant caregiving. If you’re feeling overwhelmed as a caregiver, you may be at risk for or experiencing a condition called caregiver burden.

Understanding Caregiver Burden

Caregiver burden encompasses the physical, financial, and emotional toll that caregiving can take. Emotionally, the frequent worry and stress about your loved one’s well-being can lead to depression and anxiety. Physically, caregiving tasks including lifting, bathing, and moving the older adult can cause significant fatigue and strain. Financially, the costs of medical supplies, home modifications, and potentially reduced work hours can cause financial stress and uncertainty.

Social isolation is another key aspect of caregiver burden. The demands of caregiving can significantly decrease your time for social activities and connections, bringing about feelings of loneliness and isolation. This lack of personal time can also mean sacrificing hobbies and other activities that previously brought joy and relaxation.

Steps to Ease Caregiver Burden

Acknowledging the signs of caregiver burden is the first step towards dealing with it. Here are a few practical steps you can take to bring you peace:

  1. Care for Your Wellbeing: Make sure you’re scheduling routine check-ups and talking with a mental health professional as well if necessary, to make sure all of your health needs are fully met. Regular exercise and a healthy diet should also be a top priority to make certain you have the energy and strength needed in your caregiving role.
  2. Use Resources and Tools: Utilize tools such as the Caregiver Burden Scale to determine areas where you might need help. Responsive Home Care also offers a wealth of educational resources to help guide and support you while you take care of older loved ones.
  3. Implement Respite Care: Respite care services can offer regular, temporary relief, allowing you to take a rest and recharge. Responsive Home Care is pleased to offer respite care services that allow you to take the time away you need while knowing your family member is thriving in the care of an experienced professional.
  4. Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to ask for assistance from loved ones and friends. Even small tasks can make a big difference. It’s also helpful to look into a caregiver support group, either online or in person, for emotional support and tried-and-true advice from others in similar situations.

At Responsive Home Care, we offer a full range of customized home care services that provide a healthy life balance for family caregivers while enhancing the lives of older adults. A number of the ways we can help include:

  • Light housekeeping and meal prep
  • Friendly companionship for engaging activities and conversations
  • Accompaniment to appointments and fun outings
  • Personal hygiene care and support
  • And more

Give us a call any time at (954) 486-6440 for more helpful tips and a senior care partner you can depend on to walk beside you in caring for someone you love. We are pleased to serve Fort Lauderdale, Hollywood, Lighthouse Point, and the surrounding areas throughout Broward County.

Why Providing Care for Your Spouse Can Cause Resentment – And How to Overcome It

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A woman who knows that providing care for your spouse can cause resentment hugs her husband as they both look out the window.

Providing care for your spouse can open up a new realm of emotions you may not have expected.

You both promised to look after each other through better or worse, in sickness and in health. When these cherished sentiments are first spoken on your wedding day, it is difficult to imagine how it will feel to actually live them out when providing care for your spouse. It may come as a shock to you that anger, frustration, and resentment can go hand-in-hand with fulfilling your vows when caregiving for your spouse.

How Can I Resent Caring for the Person I Love the Most?

In a nutshell, providing care for your spouse is overwhelming, both physically and emotionally. You may feel:

  • Unappreciated and taken for granted
  • Concerned about your spouse’s prognosis
  • Frustrated from insufficient time for self-care
  • Stretched too thin
  • Angry or irritated for inexplicable reasons

All of these feelings are valid and completely normal, even if unexpected – and there are things you can do to overcome them while strengthening your relationship with your spouse.

How to Conquer Spousal Caregiving Resentment

Set and maintain boundaries. Remind yourself that you are human, and you cannot (and shouldn’t attempt to) do it all. Setting an unattainable bar for yourself as a caregiver will quickly result in depression, burnout, and a reduced quality of care for your spouse. Identify realistic expectations that are in line with your strengths and abilities, and bring in help for the rest.

Face your emotions. You might be trying to cover up how you feel to keep the peace, but it’s important to find a safe space to vent. Caregiving is stressful on many levels, and identifying a strong network of support is a must. Speak regularly with a trusted friend or family member, counselor, or spiritual guide.

Explore couples therapy. A professional marriage counselor can be helpful to both of you individually and as a couple. You will gain the tools you need to resolve disputes in a healthy way, to better understand each other’s perspective, to better manage feelings of resentment, and to improve communication. The therapist can also provide you with referrals to other helpful resources as appropriate.

Take care of YOU. If you think of self-care as selfish, think again. Taking care of yourself empowers you to take better care of your spouse. Carve out and prioritize time for pastimes you enjoy, socializing with friends and other family members, and stress-relieving activities: exercise, reading, journaling, listening to music, being outdoors.

Responsive Home Care is here to serve as your partner in care to help you restore a healthier life balance and to rediscover the joy of spending quality time with your spouse. Contact us at (954) 486-6440 to ask about our respite care services and to request a free in-home consultation to learn more about the many ways we can help. Our services are available in Fort Lauderdale, Lighthouse Point, Hollywood, and the surrounding areas.